Marriage signifies a major milestone in any adult life that both parties are willing to build their future together. For a man, it is telling the world that you are able to take care and protect your life partner. For a woman, well…I, of course, am not in the position to describe a woman’s feeling but a short write-up from Priscilla Chua (photos of her below) could well do the job. This when when she, as the bride-of-honor, witnessed the holy matrimony of her cousin and a best friend.
A Glimpse of Heaven by Priscilla Chua
It was merely two hours of sleep before that fateful day. Despite the physical fatigue, the sense of exhilaration and excitement of your big day made it easy to hop out of bed. It seems like it was only yesterday that we were playing truant and talking about boys, how fast those moments flee, and here I am, looking at you through your bridal veils, all grown up and not a little girl anymore.
You take your once-in-a-lifetime walk, treasure every step, as the people you love and who love you look in awe of your beauty in your ivory lace princess wedding dress. When your father passed your hand, his grown child’s hand to your soon-to-be husband, it’s perhaps the most poignant symbol of the wedding. Needless to say, we all lose it, because tears are contagious. Tears of joy. You seal your vows with a kiss. It was a sight to behold.
There was a moment in the ceremony when I was up there next to you, holding the ring, I took a trip down memory lane with vivid images of the past surged through my mind, I remembered that day, the day my cousin set his eyes upon you, came to me, shyly, he asked
“This girl, Susan, are you close to her?”
Suddenly, a smile coursed through my lips with a tinge of nostalgia, reminiscing the old days, watching you both transform from strangers to lovers.
Love is such a simple word that is beautifully played out in both your life, manifested in moderation, portrayed in selflessness and devotion. Like a growing garland, you nurture, breed and water, slow and steady. Today, you both reap the rewards of your labor.
In the naked eyes of man and the eyes of the Almighty, you made a covenant in your vows that reflects a marroage that is bound by
steadfast love and faithfulness. That moment when you became man and wife, gave us a glimpse heaven and true love. This is not a happy ending, but start of a beautiful journey, union of two hearts and lives.
For a man, here’s the man-ly part he should take care of, aside from the lovey-dovey feeling. This I quote from a recent wall post from Ken Chee, founder of Millionaire Investor Program.
His father told him one thing that turn out to be one of the best life and financial advise any father can give it to his son.
“Expect no support from me when you decided to get married. Do not accept a single cent from your in laws family too. If you have money, do the usual stuff like wedding dinner and buy a place in your own terms. If you have no money, register your ROM, go back home, offer one glass of clear water and a joss stick to your grandma on the altar, ask for blessing and then sleep on a simple mattress with your wife. A man can have no money in the beginning but he must have backbone and ambition“
Spend what you can least afford for the wedding because it is not just a show for one day, it is a lifetime commitment. You do not want to start this holy commitment with foolish debt. And if you need two families support just to get married, when can you ever stand up on your own feet?
Be a man, do the right thing.
And on diamond rings, he further adds the below. This is L.E.G.E.N.D.A.R.Y.
If my daughters request any diamond rings from her future husband to be, they will receive serious lashing from me. And if my future son in-law spent 1-3 months of his salaries on a diamond ring just to show how much he ‘love’ my daughter and yet struggle financially, I will urge my daughter to think thrice about marrying this guy. Romance without finance is nuisance.
And to wrap this up, a relevant article to the above, from INC